If you are seeking to relocate with children after your divorce, or if you are a divorced parent seeking to move away, it is imperative that you and the other parent avoid drawn-out court battles, prioritize the best interests of your children, and establish custody arrangements through clear, detailed parenting plans. 

Can I Move Away With My Child After Divorce? Understanding Child Custody Laws & Relocation Cases In California 

In California, if a proposed move will interfere with the existing custody or visitation order, the relocating parent must seek court approval in a relocation case, also referred to as a “move-away case”, before moving with the child.  

If the parent who wishes to relocate has sole physical custody in a permanent custody order, the courts will generally allow that parent to move away with the child unless the other parent can demonstrate that the move would not be in the child’s best interests. If the permanent custody order is for joint physical custody, the courts will not allow the child to move away unless the parent who wishes to relocate can prove that the move would be in the child’s best interest.

Prioritizing Children & Navigating Relocation Disputes With Family Mediation  

In making a relocation case decision, a judge will consider several factors to determine if the relocation will be in the child’s best interest. Some factors include the distance of the move, the relationship between the co-parents, the child’s age, and if and how existing custody arrangements differ from how much time the child actually spends with each parent.

Keep in mind that family court proceedings are designed to make a decision—not to help you and your ex “work it out” in the midst of your relocation case. 

The idea of publicly appearing in court as either the relocating parent or the one opposing the move can feel like a tense tug-of-war on a hill of legal complexities and, moreover, mounting attorney fees. The rigid dynamics of the courtroom can foster hostility and fear of the loss of control and closeness with one’s child. 

As an alternative to family court litigation, mediation supports the child-centered principles of the law while offering a more personalized and collaborative approach. Mediation does not require lawyers or court appearances. Parents privately discuss matters with one another face-to-face, guided by the mediator acting as a neutral third-party—an addendum can then be filed with the court to make the “move away” order legally binding.

McNamee Mediations in Orange County helps you understand your rights as a parent and how California custody laws work, resolve relocation disputes, and navigate the complexities of establishing or modifying custody agreements and parenting plans. 

Why Choose Mediation Over Litigation When Relocating Or Changing Child Custody Arrangements  

• Customization: As parents, you know your child’s day-to-day activities and understand your family’s dynamics. Mediation facilitates the exchange of ideas, allowing parents to design their own custody agreements instead of leaving the decisions up to a judge.   
• Conflict De-Escalation: Colleen McNamee uses proven conflict resolution techniques backed by decades of expertise to ensure mutual respect. Mediation keeps parties focused on the best interests of the child and helps to resolve disputes, avoiding wasted time and mental anguish over prolonged litigation. 
• Clarity & Co-Parenting: When negative emotions run high, especially when it comes to matters involving children, it can be difficult to envision a positive, bright co-parenting future. Colleen McNamee helps parents get clear-headed about working together to ensure a happy, healthy family dynamic as they move forward with updated custody arrangements. 
• Confidentiality: Court proceedings become part of the public record and may include sensitive family information that parents would prefer to keep private. In contrast, mediation is a confidential process, a safe space for open dialogue without the risk of unwanted exposure or media attention.

Creative Co‑Parenting Ideas After Moving To Another City Or State

Plan In Advance: Vacations, Special Dates, Thanksgiving, Christmas, & Birthdays

Visitation in a co-parenting plan should specify where the child will spend occasions including birthdays and major or religious holidays, such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, Easter, Fourth of July. A mediator with the skills of Colleen McNamee is invaluable in advising parents on the language of the co-parenting plan. For instance, a flexibility clause whereby plans are adhered to as set forth “unless mutually agreed otherwise by the parties,” will logistically allow for mutually agreed-upon changes without violating court orders.

Nurture Communication And Regular Contact With Virtual Visitation

In today’s digital age, children are among the most tech-savvy of all age groups! Video conferencing tools like Zoom offer an excellent way for the child and the non-relocating parent to maintain consistent, scheduled virtual contact. Whether it’s virtual homework sessions, reading sessions, or movie nights, Zoom helps bridge the physical distance so that children feel & remain connected to a parent in another city or state. 

Schedule & Coordinate Logistics For Traveling With Children

While traveling with children can be challenging, it can also be incredibly rewarding. Taking your children on an adventure exposes them to new perspectives and broadens their understanding of the world beyond their local neighborhood. Parenting plans can include a travel schedule, where each journey is an opportunity for the relocated parent to take the child on a road trip or flight. This gives your child the opportunity to visit the other parent and while spending quality time exploring museums, landmarks, or destinations together.

Colleen McNamee of McNamee Mediations guides parents through the process of resolving relocation disputes and creating comprehensive, thorough, and child-centric co-parenting plans. We offer on-going, post-settlement support and resources, including co-parenting reading recommendations, and continued mediation sessions if needed. When requested, McNamee Mediations can refer clients to family counselors, co-parenting therapists, and child psychologists to help establish a healthy transition towards co-parenting and blended family structures.

Give McNamee Mediations a call today to learn more about child custody and co-parenting solutions. 

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